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When you and your spouse first met, you were captivated by their charming personality. Maybe he made you feel like a princess, or maybe she made you feel like you were the only man in the world. It felt great to receive so much focused attention from someone who quickly became so special to you—and such a big part of your life. You might have begun to feel uncomfortable after noticing that your spouse freely compliments members of the opposite sex on their physical appearance or their talents.
Luckily, there are several things you can do to understand why your spouse is flirting—and to address the issue with your husband or wife. This is an important question to ask yourself. Consider whether your spouse flirts with most people or everyone of the opposite sex. Is the flirtation focused on many people, or just one particular person? People who are flirtatious across the board tend to have a sense of neediness deep inside themselves. Flirting gets us attention, and it gets our attention when others flirt with us.
It makes both the giver and the receiver feel good. It might not mean anything, so be careful not to jump to conclusions or point the finger at your spouse until you have assessed the situation further. Putting pressure on your spouse can make the issue worse or make them shut down completely. When it comes to problematic flirting, humor can be a great, light-hearted intervention. You can intervene by flirting back with your spouse not flirting with someone else to get even. Doing this helps you serve as a mirror to them, giving them a glimpse of what the flirting looks like from the outside.
Still, take a humorous approach to the situation. Be honest with your spouse about how it feels to watch them flirt with other people. Am I not meeting your needs? What can I do to change this for you? Most of all, resist the impulse to attack your spouse; being vulnerable and opening up is the key to solving the problem.
If your spouse is flirting with other members of the opposite sex, you have a right to question his or her behavior. See the book, High-Maintenance Relationships , for more specific guidance on managing and improving your relationship with a flirtatious spouse.
Is your spouse a flirt? Has either of you had an issue with flirting in the past, and how did you overcome it together? Share your stories in the comments section below! Thank u for this article. I am currently counseling a couple that is struggling in this area. Very helpful. My husband always crack jokes with my neighbor down stairs who is married,jokes like can I help you with your laundry, should u come and make my hair ,am not eating your food and stuff am not comfortable with it what do I do.
I noticed my husband is having an affair with her ex girlfriend roommate, I tried talking to him he shut me down, so I send the lady text message to stay away she told my husband and it caused serious issues,she got pregnant for him and remove, because she is till a student the relationship is getting stronger what can I do to end it. My hubby though he loves me, akways finds an attractive woman at en event and continues to make eye contact with her through out most of our time at event.
He will smile at her and they continually watch each other. Usually while we dance. One time recently he sat on edge of band stand and watched sexy woman stare at him and Dance provocatively for him while he watched 4 ft away…while I was standing beside him. He loves God but had had a rough life. I do not know what to do. This helps. Thank yiu. That must be so hard to watch! My heart hurts for you. I must say it sounds like there might be something a little deeper going on then a flirtatious personality.
Have you thought about counseling? Courage to you! To love is to obey. He needs deliverance from a lustful spirit. If you truly want to honor your spouse, you will have firm boundaries to prevent harmful flirtation with someone other than your spouse. Due to different personality types, backgrounds, and life experiences, many of us will feel threatened if our outgoing spouse continually demands this kind of attention. Along with boundaries, growth and maturity as a couple through kind communication should address this often-seen situation.
Hi, I just got married few months back in an arranged marriage. Relationship is in starting phase. Understanding each other. But I noticed many times that my husband is making eye contact with other girls and staring at them. Sometimes little touchy with old girls friends example little touching feet. What should I do. That affirmation needs to come from you, the spouse, not from someone else. Thank you so much!! You may have just save my long term engagement of 3 years.
But later tell me they are sorry and that they feel guilty and are embarrassed when he does it. Fiance got extremely defensive when I brought it up early in our relationship, then disregarded the counselors advise. After 23 years of marriage and round after round if this I say absolutley not! You deserve better.
That was 2 years ago. I say carefully…. I married my flirty boyfriend. Now my husband. Lots of pain and discomfort. I love flirting with him. He likes to flirt with me thank goodness and many others. I am not sure we will make it. Too disruptive to my security. Kim, he knows what he is doing. My husband pretended he cared but keeps flirting. Most embarrassing moment. He flirted at our wedding with a friend who was brave enough to tell me.
Best advice is that my husband has different sexual boundaries then I. I am mad at myself. This article is wrong in so many levels. And if your spouse is a narcissist or borderline you need to realize that you are probably being manipulated by this behavior!!
They are using it to destroy you. I have seen this behavior lead to emotional, physical and sexual affairs! Even Oprah has write. About rhe problems with flirting. Stop blaming the victim!! My heart bleeds for us women. He is not going to change for you…. I hope this helped someone…if not…it felt good to get it off my chest. I beg you. My heart goes out to all of the spouses and people who this happens to. I feel your pain, from personal experience.Looking for a super short married woman to flirt with
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